Divorce can be emotionally draining for adults. If children are involved, they usually feel it even more so. In the long run, the separation may be better all around. After all, staying together in an unhappy marriage tends to do more harm than good.
That being said, your children may find it difficult initially. Here are some signs that your child is struggling post-divorce.
1. Unusual behaviors
The first thing you want to look out for is anything that seems unusual. Unusual behaviors come in numerous forms. For instance, a normally creative child may suddenly seem uninspired or disinterested in their projects, and a child that’s normally easy-going may suddenly become temperamental and emotional.
2. Poor grades
During the marriage, your child was always enthusiastic at school, and this showed in their grades. However, in their most recent teacher’s report from school, there have been some issues. Apparently, they have become distracted in class and are no longer applying themself. This has been reflected in poor grades — and that’s another sign that they may be having trouble with their new situation.
3. Becoming withdrawn
Your child may not always express outwardly that they are struggling. In fact, it is not uncommon for the opposite to happen. Your child may become very quiet and seem to simply “shut down.” While there is nothing wrong with being introverted, if this personality shift has come on suddenly after the divorce then it could be a cause for concern.
What can you do to help?
Every family dynamic is different and nobody knows your child better than you. One thing you can do is talk to them in an age-appropriate manner. Ideally, you’ll want to involve your co-parent in this so that you can show a united front despite the separation.
In some cases, a custody modification may help your child to find stability. If you’re considering this then seek some legal guidance.
